Happy Anniversay, bonne anniversaire de marriage à nous deux...

I was the one,
Who did not want to make a big deal of a marriage,
Because,
To make a big deal but then,
A very small one,
And even nothing,
Or below nothing,
Even, worst of anything!

Marriage is a commitment,
Not a commercial deal,
When I accepted it,
I knew that it would not have been easy,
It might not be what some call the house of dreams,
While,
Two different person,
With 2 different perceptions,
Two different of everything,
Meet and are attracted,
Lots should happen,
Until,
They become conscious of what is happenning...

I always saw what was going on around,
And, also somewhere else,
I wanted to be different,
I wanted to make my life through myself,
But, at the same time,
I was quite realistic about what I did not or could not master,
And, one is already complexe,
Two of us is also another One and even more complexe!

I know now,
Much more than before,
That,
It is true,
I never had any expectations,
Beyond what we could make together,
And when I remember the touching phrase you wrote to me,
The one which convinced me to do this adventure with you,
'Happiness cannot be promissed, it is made by two!'.
So, honnest,
And, the honnesty as usual,
Was the richest and the strongest way to have my trust,
Yes, if you had told me,
Promissed me,
The happiness,
We might not have been together,
Because, I am always  happy,
When I am not pushed to the sadness,
Because it is a lie to promiss happiness,
To someone whom you do not know at all yet!
And, especially, when you are so young and ignor your propre self!

I am still impressed how you could have access to this coded phrase,
Or how you made it up!
Because, despite of all I was trying to do,
For not going through this kind of commitment,
Such as, 'a full life together',
And, through all the nonsense situations,
And their stressful impacts and effects,
On many moments of our couple life,
I am still impressed,
And because of that, I stay trustful,
Yes, I can say that we are still working on it,
Yes, at least,
We did not go through a big LIE,
A promis for a fake happiness ...

My dear Bahram,
Today,
As you had not been a lie, or wanted a lie,
Today, this day,
I trust that we did not make a mistake by choosing our partners,
We are both truthful,
We are both heartful,
To our judgements,
So, determined for the truth!

Being so different,
Is just something depending on our education,
On our physical and mental differences,
But, what makes us so united,
Is something which is very strong,
Above of all,
The conviction of living theTruth!

We both have our own habits,
We are both so different,
But, we both complete each other,
I may have hated some situations I had to go through,
Because of your lack of understanding,
You might also have gone through the same,
By lack of my understanding,
But, what is the Truth,
We both know we are not interested in lies!

To see the truth,
We need to be two!
We need to be different,
We need to compromise on the truth!
It is so hard to do so,
That is why,
When two people become one couple,
They go trough endless adventures,
Throught lots of trials,
Because,
They have to face themselves in different situations,
They have to face the other one's perception of the different situations,
Then, the kids,
Makes it much more complexe,
But, only,
Only, those couples survive,
Appreciate without any regrets,
Those who know,
That the truth is like an onion,
Over the time,
Some layers,
Become thin but strong,
Not good to be eatten,
And,
We always need to peel them out,
Before getting to its juicy healthy layers!

My dear Bahram,
Our dear sons,
Yes, I like many other people, had a hard time to go through this commitment,
But, I am so proud,
That,
Depite of all conversations,
Our endless arguements,
About the truth,
We have lived a true life,
And lie free!

It is so hard to be truthfull,
In a society that makes you believe in so many different experimental experiences,
And, a family functions through them without any previous background,
And should believe in them inorder to be a part of it!
But, still the dignity of human being is,
To live her or his life through her or his time,
While questionning and staying open to the next step and the truth while enjoying life!
While being conscious, that we are just acting in different situations,
Believe that our life and happiness depends on our own personnal perception!

Has our couple reached Happiness?
I ask this question:
What do you mean by Happiness?
An experimental experience,
Or what I had always had by living my life and truthfully!?!
Yes, I always felt happiness,
Even through stressful difficulties,
I experienced happiness,
By my consciousness of being myself,
Doing what I could in my espace and in my time!
Regrette free!
I may say that for you Bahram, too!
Because,
More than that,
I do not know what we could have done!

Thanks to us,
For being so courageous,
Many thanks to our wonderful sons,
The most amazing and precious gifts,
We could have ever offered to ourselves,
The most truthful of the truths,
So present in the deepest part of our heart and mind,
The most wonderful happiness,
Can ever exist,
Which ties us forever and makes of the happiest of all!
Thanks to you for being so mature,
And, helping us to face different aspects of us,
And, can understand each other through you!
We hope that we can be an exemple of a fulfilled couple!
And, have more laughters for all of us,
Especially for your families and kids!!!

We love you in our ways,
We respect you in our ways,
We trust you in our ways,
We grow all in our ways,
And all together as a family
Life is the most amazing school, high school, university,
When we observe while studing and practicing!
And, of course, enjoy!!!

Good luck to all young couples!

 With lots of love and laughter!

Shahrzad, March 10th of 2014